Ready to completely change how you think about real estate and financial freedom? In this episode, we’re sitting down with Brad Chandler as he shares how he successfully bought and sold 4,000 homes across the country. Over the course of two decades, Brad has raised a whopping 300 million dollars worth of private money!
Today, Brad is committed to helping people discover the life-changing mindset that led to his personal transformation and financial success! Join us for this insightful episode on cultivating the right mindset for building wealth and learning from $ 9-million-dollar mistakes. By challenging harmful misconceptions of money, Brad highlights the importance of never losing sight of what really matters as we embark on this path toward financial freedom.
Key Takeaways
- Learning from $9 million mistakes
- Grave misconceptions about chasing money
- How to positively transform the way you see yourself
- The two most important P’s: People and Processes
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Timestamps:
0:01 – Get Ready To Be Plugged Into The Money
0:10 – Today’s guest: Brad Chandler
2:48 – From Grade 9 to 4000 Homes
4:27 – Brad Chandler’s Five Business Mistakes
7:02 – Make An Impact, Change People’s Lives
8:55 – The Point Of Change That Triggered Brad’s New Path
11:24 – How To Change Your View of Life
14:43 – The Most Valuable Real Estate
19:05 – You Have Everything You Ever Need Right Now To Be Happy
21:03 – Book Recommendations By Brad Chandler
23:08 – How To Achieve Success Without Feeling Exhausted In Your Work
25:14 – Jay’s Free Private Money Guide: https://www.JayConner.com/MoneyGuide
27:09 – Connect with Brad Chandler: https://www.BradChandler.com
From Grade 9 to 4000 Homes! with Brad Chandler & Jay Conner
Jay Conner
00:00:02
Well, hello, and welcome to another episode of the show. I’m your host, Jay Connor known as the private money authority, and wow. Have we got an exciting guest today? He’s a dear friend. He’s like crazy, super, super successful in his real estate investing business. And he like hardly works any hours per week. I know you want to hear that story. So before I bring him on, let me tell you just a little bit about him. My, good friend and guest, first actually, got introduced to this world of real estate all the way back when he was in ninth grade. He read a book on how to buy houses. Well, in 2002, an investor bought his neighbor’s house where he was living in Vienna, Virginia. And after he got to talking, you know, with the investor a little bit, well, he started to open up this business that he calls express home buyers.
Jay Conner
00:01:02
Well, check this out. So here we are in 2022, 20 years later, and my guest business express home buyers have bought and sold. Are you ready for this? Over 4,000 homes, and 4,000 properties across the country. And he’s got like this whole system totally automated. And now he’s like just living a free life. He’s one of the happiest guys I know besides myself. And so I ask him to come on and share these secrets as to how in the world he got to this point. Well, his primary focus is all about making an impact on the team members and the clients that they serve by providing a customized solution that best addresses the client’s individual needs. In other words, my guess has got the same thing I got, and that is a servant’s heart. How is it that we can make an impact on other people? Then we don’t have to worry about ourselves where you’re going to hear all about it here in just a second. Because when my friend is not parenting his two kids, he loves boating and golfing and you know, just simply helping others find freedom and happiness in their lives. And with that, my good friend, welcome to the show, Mr. Brad Chandler. Hello Brad.
Brad Chandler
00:02:24
Hello everyone. Thanks for having me, Jay.
Jay Conner
00:02:26
Well, I am so excited and ecstatic to have you here on the show, Brad and I love seeing you at our mastermind meetings and you know, yep. You’ve just been a dear friend for quite a while now. And, if your smile is any indication of how happy you are these days, you’re pretty happy.
Brad Chandler
00:02:46
I am very happy.
Jay Conner
00:02:48
So yeah, man, my land, you read this book about real estate investing when you were all the way back in ninth grade, and shoot, I didn’t what I wanted to do when I grew up until I was like 40 years old. That’s great. So you gotta figure it out sort of at a, at an early age. Well, that’s how you initially got interested in it, but I mean, you know, how far into actually investing, was it before you really got it figured out to the point that you could get traction and you know, really start to scale your business.
Brad Chandler
00:03:28
I mean, if you go back. So I bought my first house in July of 2003 in the first five or six months of 2005, we had netted a million and a half dollars. And I thought I was the smartest guy in the world. And I thought I was ready to retire and kick my feet back. I’m like, I’m just smarter than everyone. Apparently. Well, life slapped me in the face because for the next, probably two years we paid back mistakes that we made that summer, literally right after we made all that money, we went on and bought three development deals that ended up costing us 3 million over the next like 10 years. So we scaled pretty quickly, but we didn’t really know what we were doing. And then we got into other stuff that was a complete distraction and it just buried us for a couple of years.
Jay Conner
00:04:16
Wow. I got you. Well, that was gonna be my next. That was gonna be my next question. And so you may want to, you know, flesh that out a little bit, what were some of your early struggles?
Brad Chandler
00:04:31
So, I mean, we’re gonna quickly shift to this, this happiness topic because my, my early struggles were five business mistakes that cost me 9 million
Jay Conner
00:04:44
And good land.
Brad Chandler
00:04:45
As I look back on those five business mistakes, it was all about me trying to prove my worth to the world because I didn’t have internal happiness. I didn’t have internal peace. And so I woke every, every morning, not consciously, but unconsciously saying I’ve gotta prove myself to the world. And how do I do that? The one way that my father taught me was money, money, money proves your worth. So I was always focused on making a ton, a ton of money. So I did all of these things that could potentially hit that home run because Hey, if I could make a million bucks or 10 million bucks or whatever the number was, I’ll be worthy. I’ll be enough. So I chased these crazy, you know, ventures that, that led to, you know, a lot, lot of laws.
Jay Conner
00:05:27
I gotcha. So I think the first lesson that I’m hearing from that story is if your primary reason for getting involved in any activity or venture or opportunity and the primary, and first reason you’re getting into it is for the money and maybe the money alone. Then there’s a good chance that might not work out.
Brad Chandler
00:05:54
That is very well said, Jay, I think for the first time in my life, as I’m building this new coaching company to help people find true freedom, I had a coaching company back in 2007 to 17, ironically called Brad Chandler Coaching into freedom. But I thought you got freedom from money. And I’ve learned over the last year and a half, you don’t get freedom from anything outside of yourself. And so if you’re going in with the mindset like I did 20 years ago, I’ve gotta make a lot of money. Cuz one, I don’t want to be homeless. Cuz when I was 10 years old, my mom said we might lose the house and move into public housing. So I had that, that weighing on me and then I had my sub, my subconscious mind saying I need to make a lot of money to be worthy.
Brad Chandler
00:06:31
And I did make a lot of money, but I also lost a lot of money. So this is the first time in my life where I’m looking at a new business venture and I have never talked about the dollars and cents of it. All I want to do is make an impact. I wanna make the largest impact I can on the world while I’m still here. And I know that five years, two years, whatever it is, I have this sneaky suspicion that I’ll make more money doing this than I ever did in real estate because my focus was at the wrong spot. It was about making money to get freedom and you can’t ever get freedom from money. You can only get freedom from within.
Jay Conner
00:07:03
So since your primary focus now is not on making money, how would you phrase your what’s your primary focus now
Brad Chandler
00:07:11
Making an impact changing people’s lives? My life, I, went through a transformation. The next Navy seal took me through a transformation in February 2020 21. So a year and a half ago. And it’s so radically changed my life that I know that God put me on this earth to help other people through this because there are so many suffering people, whether it’s, you know, they’re struggling with addiction or poor marriages or businesses that don’t work. They’re, they’re up and down all over the place. You know, the list goes on and on and on addiction, food, food, food problems, unhealthiness sickness, all of that can be solved by going back to your childhood, figuring out what these false beliefs are that they, that got you through and helped you survive, whatever childhood stress or trauma you went through, but they don’t serve you as an adult.
Brad Chandler
00:08:00
So for 47 years, I had the I’m not enough syndrome. I’ve gotta do better. I’ve gotta prove proof stuff. And it, it didn’t serve me. Well, it cost me $9 million. It cost me two marriages. It cost me a lot of stuff, cost me, you know, friendships, whatever relationships. And once I made that turn and figured out that those were all just lies that I was telling myself, I was living a life of false beliefs, which after talking with hundreds of people over the last year, most of us do to some degree when you can make that shift and realize that you are enough just as you are, you were born in God’s image. So you’re love, you’re this perfect creature, and the whole world changes. And, frankly, Jay, my business has changed. I come to the office and most of the time I just spend working on the happiness stuff and I don’t really do anything like my business is running itself and it’s really, we’re, we’re making the most profit that we ever have in, in nearly 20 years.
Jay Conner
00:08:53
That is awesome. So what was going on in your life just a few short years ago that got you to the point where you said there’s got to be a better way? And then you started in seeking, you started seeking help to help you with your transformation. What was the aha moment? What was that thing that happened? What triggered your new path?
Brad Chandler
00:09:19
It was a phone call I had with a good friend of mine who asked me how my life was. And I said, my life is exceptional, with one exception. And that is my son’s anxiety. And he said, well if you really wanna solve it, you gotta talk to my friend, this ex-Navy seal and his wife. So I got on the Zoom call with his wife, trying to help my son. And she said to me, within the first like two minutes, she’s like, Brad, do you understand that? Do you realize you have a tick? And I’m like, what is this lady talking about? I was like, no, what are you talking about? She goes when you talk about your childhood, you blink profusely. She’s like, there’s a good chance. You have some unresolved trauma around your childhood. And I’m like, okay. She’s like if you wanna support your son, come out, we have this, you know, we have this program and we’ll take you through it. And so of course I did to support my son and that weekend, everything in my life changed.
Jay Conner
01:10:04
Mm. So what did you discover about yourself during that weekend?
Brad Chandler
01:10:11
So what I discovered about myself is what I now understand is the cause of 99% of the problems in the entire world is that people lack self-love and self-compassion, and that may sound woo woo. But it really isn’t people who lack, self-love and self self-compassion. And the reason they do that is that we all go through some type of childhood trauma or stress or, or not getting our needs met, and our brain in order to survive, whatever we’re going through often creates these stories. Hey, why is this happening to me? Why am I getting hit? Why am I getting sexually abused? Why is my, why is my dad never home? Why is he work 20 hours? Well, there must be something wrong with me. So that helps you process and get through that. But that’s not the truth. You, you, it was, there was, it was never about me. It was about my broken father. It was how he treated me. And so that story helped me as a six-year-old, a seven-year-old, eight-year-old, but it doesn’t didn’t serve me as a 45-year-old because I kept telling myself those stories. So in that process, I realized that, Hey, this was never about me. I’m fine. I’m good. I don’t need to prove anything else to the world. I’m good enough. And that’s when everything changed,
Jay Conner
01:11:22
Well, you know, you had years of programming, you had years of subconscious programming, and of course, we only have about 15 minutes left in this podcast. So this would be a six-month question compacted from the 30,000-foot view, I guess we could say, but how, what do you do? What, does someone do to go through the process of transforming and changing the way you think about yourself?
Brad Chandler
01:11:59
Yeah. It’s, it’s not easy, Jay, but it’s simple. And it’s, it’s just what I mentioned before. It’s, it’s sitting down with someone who can have a compassionate conversation with you to figure out where in your childhood, you struggled and where you felt like you didn’t have control, or you had stress or trauma, and then figuring out what stories you told yourself and then reprogramming those stories so that you literally through neurolinguistic programming, which is really just reading or listening, or what I did is I recorded it and I just listened to it every morning, over and over again, where I said, these are the truths and your brain can actually grow new neural pathways. And you know, I’ve said this in, in countless times, there’s, there’s, there’s probably two or three really keys to tease to happiness. One is living in truth. If, if you’re suffering, you’re not living in truth.
Brad Chandler
01:12:51
And what is the truth? The truth is you are enough you’re, you’re a good person, your core, your essence is solid. It’s just, you’ve been put through these terrible things as a child that created you to think differently about yourself. So living in the truth is one thing. And then being present, like don’t let imagination and memory imagination, looking forward, memory, looking backward. Don’t let that Rob your, your, your piece because heaven on earth is right now, right here. If we just stay present. But what we as human beings like to do is huge use imagination and memory in a bad way. So we think about all the bad things that happen to us. And then we imagine the bad things that can happen going forward. What if we used imagination to think about all the good things that could happen? And what about if we, we, we took from our memory, all the good things that did happen, but we don’t do that. We often do it. We spend too much time in the past and the future and we don’t live in the truth. And when we do go into the past for the future, it’s usually negative stories of what can go wrong or what did I do wrong before.
Jay Conner
01:13:52
Yeah, that’s very interesting. I can’t remember which way it goes. A friend of mine years ago said they talked about worry and anxiety, and they said, both worry and anxiety come from not living in the present, just like you just said, but it was either worry was worrying about what was going to happen. That probably is not gonna happen. And anxiety is still living in the past and being anxious about that one way or the other. I like the way you, I like the way you said it, better imagination. I know hasn’t happened yet. And memories I know have already happened. So, that helps me keep it straight. And so I know we normally, you know, on the podcast here, we normally talk about real estate investing and strategies and all that. But you know, I’m thinking about it, Brad, we really are talking about real estate investing on this show because we’re talking about investing in the real estate that exists between your ears.
Brad Chandler
01:14:58
Yeah. And
Jay Conner
01:14:58
You know, I tell people, I tell, I tell
Brad Chandler
01:15:01
Most valuable real estate,
Jay Conner
01:15:02
I’m sorry,
Brad Chandler
01:15:03
The most valuable real estate.
Jay Conner
01:15:05
Exactly. And, you know, I tell my clients and students all the time, I say, you know, it’s gonna be very, very hard for you to own houses, apartments, land, self-storage, and all that kind of real estate until you own the real estate that exists between your ears. Well, this is wonderful that you’re on this pathway, not on this pathway. You’ve, you’re like lived through this pathway to where you’re gonna be able to share this with other people. And, you know, I don’t know very many people walking around that wouldn’t love to learn actually how to live happier. Cause after all, what does everybody really want in life or our life? And I’ll let you answer that question.
Brad Chandler
01:15:48
Well, it’s, it’s, it’s freedom and happiness, and freedom and happiness comes from you. You can’t love other individuals. You can’t be a good business owner. You can’t have a successful marriage or relationship. If you don’t have a good relationship with yourself. And I spent 47 years of my life thinking that love and, and, and happiness came from outside, whether it was boats or cars or making millions of dollars, and look, look, a billion billionaires are, you know, there are billionaires who are committing suicide money. Look, look at, look at the, you know, the Elvis Pressley in the, the list goes on and on in a prince and, and Michael Jackson, these people had more money than, than they know what to do with it didn’t make a difference. So for 47 years, I thought it made a difference. Money. Doesn’t make a difference. It may make your life a little bit easier, but it’ll never bring you peace and happiness. What we crave as, as, as human beings is deep connections with other human beings. And you can’t have a deep connection with another human being. If you don’t have a good relationship with yourself.
Jay Conner
01:16:50
Yeah. I couldn’t agree more. And it’s true with my own self. I mean, I think about the past, any venture that I have gotten involved with and money was the only motivating factor. Not only did I fail miserably, it never got off the ground. I mean, I actually never really took action towards getting stuff done because of money in and of itself. I mean, I, I, you know, I’ve heard in the past years, well, money motivates me. Money motivates me, but you know, anymore, I don’t really think it’s the money. Somebody may think it’s the money. That’s motivating them, but that’s not really what they’re going after. They may think it is not. Like, as you said a minute ago, they think that money is gonna lead them to happiness. I remember Brad driving down the road years ago with a business partner of mine.
Jay Conner
01:17:47
And I mean, he had all the toys. I mean, he had the boat, he had the airplane, he had the jet skis. He had the house, you know, right on the waterfront, all that, all that. And we’re riding down the road and he says, Jay, why am I not satisfied? What’s next? Why am I riding around with this empty feeling inside? And my answer to him was because all that stuff, can’t fill you up. Yeah. None of that, none of that stuff can fill you up. In fact, I was having a conversation last week with coach David Price. Who’s a good friend of mine? He’s also our minister at our church for 18 years. And in fact, there’s a verse in the Bible that I can’t quote, but I can paraphrase it. And more or less, it says anything that you can see, like physically, anything that you can see does not give you happiness and everything that you see is actually temporal. The only thing that’s permanent in E and eternal is what you cannot see. Well, there’s one of ’em right there. Happiness, happiness. You can’t see, but you can certainly feel it. It’s sort of like the wind, right?
Brad Chandler
01:19:07
You, you, the person listening to me right now have everything that you ever need, right? This second to be happy. Think about that. Think about that and replay this a couple of times. You have right now, I don’t care what your situation is. You have everything that you need to be happy right now. So why aren’t you happy?
Jay Conner
01:19:27
That’s a great question. I went on a missionary trip oh, years ago to Honduras. And it was amazing. We went up to the top of the mountain and visited with E Barto and his wife. And they had 15 kids. They had no running water except this beautiful white running stream on the now that’s beautiful running water. They just didn’t have running water inside the house and had no electricity. Their floor was a dirt-hard-packed floor. And those people in that family were some of the happiest people I’ve ever met in my life. And it was because of their, of course, their spiritual relationship, you know, with God. And you know, they’re, they’re fellow Christians and, you know, the, I mean, talk about work. I mean, they, they, they ate because they work the land, right? And it’s like, I mean, they didn’t have any boats and airplanes and, you know, and houses on the waterfront. But back to what you said a second ago, they definitely had a connection and a very, very strong connection with not only themselves but with other people, just like you said.
Brad Chandler
02:20:46
Yeah.
Jay Conner
02:20:48
And so you have a process, right? You have a process with this co-coaching company that you’re launching that helps people walk through this process that you have walked through, right?
Brad Chandler
02:21:00
Absolutely. Yes.
Jay Conner
02:21:04
In the meantime, my best guess is you’ve probably read some good books that you could recommend to others as well, that might help them on this road as well. Have you, do you have any books that you
Brad Chandler
02:21:17
Recommend since I started my transformation in February of last year, I think I’ve read 30-something. Books
Jay Conner
02:21:22
Might. Well, just gimme your top three that come to mind that had the most impact on you.
Brad Chandler
02:21:28
So Tara Brock has a book. And I’m blanking on in the name, but she only has two books. One’s a BR or one’s a brand new one. It’ll come to me in a second. The book though, that stands far and above every book I’ve read is a book that’s about this big and it’s called the way to Love by Anthony DLO. He was a Jesuit who I believe moved to India and spent most of his life in India. So he is got the Christian view, but he is also got the, the kind of the Buddhist, you know, shaman type view. And the book is just mind. Binding good. It, it, it is amazing. So I would recommend everyone go out. Each chapter has about four or five pages. So I plan to read that book, for the rest of my life, taking a chapter a night. It will take you five to 10 minutes to read the chapter.
Jay Conner
02:22:18
And the name of the book is the way to Love
Brad Chandler
02:22:22
Way to Love by Anthony DLO. Yep.
Jay Conner
02:22:25
By Anthony. And how do you spell Anthony’s last name?
Brad Chandler
02:22:28
D E M E L L O
Jay Conner
02:22:39
I got you. Well, I’m gonna hold that book. It sounds fascinating.
Brad Chandler
02:22:43
Yep. And then just, it just came to me. It’s called radical acceptance by Tara Brock. That was a really, just basically like radically accepting everything in your life. And the number one thing you need to accept in your life is that you are, you are love, you are lovable. You are worthy of love and accept yourself just as you are.
Jay Conner
02:23:04
Wow. Now let’s talk about how it is that you’re still running this very successful business or multiple businesses. And when you come into the office, you’re mostly, you know, working on this happiness thing, how is it that you’re able to run such a successful business and like you barely ever work?
Brad Chandler
02:23:25
You know, it’s two, two simple things. The two PS, right? People and processes I have. And I, and I, I’m gonna, I’m gonna give credit to my transformation through this too, because when you’re fighting for your worthiness, you attract the wrong spouses, the wrong partners, the wrong friends. When you get to a place where you aren’t trying to prove anything, you attract a whole different type, of person. We have assembled after 19 years in business the best team that we’ve ever had. And it’s not about ego, and it’s not about me trying to prove to the world, anything. I get these people in here. Some of ’em have heard my podcast just like this, and been like, I wanna work for that guy. Like I want to transform my life. And then I bring them in and I work with them on a personal level. So how do I do it over the years? I’ve been a stickler, and I’m no good at creating processes, but I’ve always pushed other people. Hey, let’s create processes. So we’ve got a lot of really great people and we’ve got a lot of great processes that it’s, it’s simple, but it’s the truth.
Jay Conner
02:24:24
That is wonderful. What does your business look like today?
Brad Chandler
02:24:28
So we, we are operating, we’re headquartered here. I’m right now in Springfield, Virginia, we do, we’re gonna do an excess of 200 deals in the DC and Baltimore areas this year. And we’re ramping up nationwide. And we’ve been buying all over the country. We’ll probably end up doing, you know, another 50 deals nationwide. So we’ll probably be in excess of 250 deals. And I’ve got probably 15 full-time, 16 full-time employees here in the office. 17. I’ve lost track. And we’ve got probably another 15 full-time virtual assistants in the Philippines that support us.
Jay Conner
02:25:00
That’s amazing. Are you wholesaling? Flipping all the above?
Brad Chandler
02:25:04
All, all the, all the above. All of the above. Yep.
Jay Conner
02:25:07
Brad, I got a question. And since I have ESPN, I know your answer. Have you ever raised any private money?
Brad Chandler
02:25:16
We have. That’s basically been our bread. I mean, we have, we’ve all we’ve really used is, has been private money.
Jay Conner
02:25:23
If you had to guess, how many millions have you raised in the years?
Brad Chandler
02:25:27
I mean, we’ve borrowed and returned somewhere in the three to $400 million range.
Jay Conner
02:25:32
Nos
Brad Chandler
02:25:33
Return. Yeah.
Jay Conner
02:25:34
Well, Brad, if you will indulge me for about 20 seconds, I’m so excited. I want to share that. I just finished writing. I just finished writing this brand new money guide all about private money and it’s titled seven reasons why private money will skyrocket your real estate business and help you build incredible wealth. And the reason I’m so excited about this money guide, and I mean, you know, you can download it right off the internet. In fact, I’ll give out the URL right now, www.JayConner.com/MoneyGuide. That’s www.JayConner.com/MoneyGuide. The reason I’m so excited about it, Brad is because it shows exactly where to get private money. I’m not talking about hard money, how to bring him a big check. Every time you buy a house, or a property using none of your own money, none of your own credit.
Jay Conner
02:26:32
And the reason I’m excited about it is that it’s private money that transformed my and Carol Joy’s business. When I lost my lines of credit at the bank back in 2009. So if you are interested in getting a bunch of funding really, really quick, and you make the rules and decide when you wanna make monthly payments, download this money guide right after this show, and it will transform your business as well. But yeah, I knew you had raised a lot of private money over the years, Brad. And I mean, it’s like, that was like the biggest game changer for me in my business. So yeah, back to what you were saying, people processes, and I just can’t tell you how excited I am for you, because I think you’re getting ready, with your new coaching company in this arena of happiness and freedom. You’re probably gonna have a problem. And that is a good problem, but you’re probably gonna have people beating the door down, trying to get, you know, signed up and enrolled to get inside your head and help ’em with it. So is this a premature question? Is there a way people can go ahead and connect with you and learn how they can, how they can start being coached by you or your process or whatever?
Brad Chandler
02:27:51
Yeah. If, if they’re serious about transforming their lives, their business, and their relationships I’m on social media. I’m, I’m, I’m becoming, a quick TikTok expert. I’ve got several videos with over 200,000 views,
Jay Conner
02:28:03
200,000. Holy me.
Brad Chandler
02:28:05
Yeah. One thing I have to say on the relationship front, is because without a good relationship, you know, what’s life like, right? If you don’t have a good partnership, a good marriage, whatever. One of the most important things is. And I think this is one of my videos I got over 200,000 views that people often are like, well, the problem in a relationship, and let’s go to marriage, the counselor is, is, is the relationship it’s Hey, talk to her more, listen to her more. Let’s go on more dates, you know, be more empathetic. None of that shit works.
Brad Chandler
02:28:32
What the real problem is, is the relationship that each party has with themselves. So if you’re in a marriage or a partnership and you’re struggling right now, don’t look at the other person, look at yourself and know that the problem, 100% of the time resolves in the problem with the relationship is a result of the relationship you have with yourself. So, yeah, I’m gonna Instagram and Facebook and Brad Chandler, coaching.com. And I’m at TikTok at Brad Chandler, the number six, reach out to me. I don’t have anything. My, my website is in the process of being built. I’ll If you’re really interested in transforming again, your life, your relationship, or your business, reach out to me through one of those means. And, and we’ll schedule a quick telephone call to see if, see if we’re a fit for each other,
Jay Conner
02:29:13
Man. That’s fantastic. Well, Brad, I’m gonna let you now have parting comments with whatever you would like to share before we wrap up.
Brad Chandler
02:29:22
Wow, man, I could talk for 24 hours, right? I think the most important thing is there’s 83% of Americans identify as not being very happy. And that is a direct result of a lack of self-love. And self-compasion lack of self-love. And self-compassion is a re is caused 99% of all of our world’s problems from wars to addictions, to, you know, prisons being full, you name it, fail partnerships. It all comes down to lack, love of self-love, and self-compassion. How do you know that? You lack, lack, self-love. Look at your results. Have you been in a long-term intimate relationship? Do you take things personally all the time? Are you always irritated? Are you constantly judging people? Do you do self-destructive behaviors? Do you eat too much, drink too much smoke too much work too much, whatever it is, those are all signs that you lack, self-love and self-compassion. And the great thing as a human being is, it’s just changing your thought process. So whether it be me or, or who else you want to reach out to life is too short. You were put here, for a massive mission. I know you were, all of us were figuring out what that is. And the only way you can figure that out and improve your relationship with your business is to get the relationship. The love, the divine love inside yourself. Just find it it’s there.
Jay Conner
03:30:33
That’s awesome. Brad, thank you so much for joining me here on the show. What an impact. Thank you.
Brad Chandler
03:30:41
Thank you for having me, Jay. That was awesome.
Jay Conner
03:30:44
You bet you are there, you have it. Another show is I’m Jay Conner, the private money authority. And if you enjoyed, and I know you did, if you enjoyed this episode, please share and subscribe. If you’re watching us on YouTube, be sure and click that bell. So you get notified of our future upcoming amazing episodes, just like we had today. And so you don’t miss out on any. I really appreciate the ratings and the reviews, those five-star ratings. Please do me a favor and look at least share this episode with someone, you know, in your life that it could make an impact on I’m Jay Conner, looking forward to seeing you right here on the next show here’s to taking your business. And from this episode, here’s to taking your personal self, to the next level, where you’ll find real happiness and freedom. We’ll see you right here at the next show.